Faggots!

During our visit to London we sat on the grass in a not very busy Hyde park to eat our ice creams. A few people were around sat in desk chairs or on picnic blankets. There were the odd one or two that were worth a second glance but nothing really to bother about - I guess everyone felt the same about us too.

We did spot one potential 'nutter' though. In fact I thought he was the guy looking after the deck chairs but on closer inspection the junk he had round his chair was maybe more loony items rather than money-collecting stuff.

Anyway he was making his way towards us as we'd finished our ice creams and were (thankfully) getting up to leave. As we walked away he just said "Faggots" and laughed. In fact he said it a few times, "Faggots, ha ha" .... "Faggots" as we walked off without looking back.

I did jokingly say to Lucy that I should go back and thank him as he did at least get my gender correct - though I don't think you can really count a nutter as a reliable witness as to weather you have passed or not.

Really neither of us were that bothered by this, clearly the guy was a loony and we're both lesbians (I have a t-short to prove it) so he was accurate in what he said. Then again, we were just sat their eating ice creams, and not doing, saying, or looking particularly lesbian at all!

I really don't get anyone, even if they are sane, having anything against someone who is 'different', if they are doing no harm to that person. The link to Wikipedia above shows people with signs saying that "God hates faggots". Surely if he does he's more than capable of showing his displeasure! Wouldn't it be better if people just got on with their own lives and left others alone to do the same?

"No offence, but ..."

Is the prefix to a comment that is absolutely 100% guaranteed to actually be offensive! Why does anyone really say this? Why don't they just say, "I'm sorry if this sounds offensive ..." or something similarly honest but not entirely harsh.

The comment in particular was on one of my photos on Facebook and the full sentance was: "No offence but you seem a little masculine"!!!

Right, first off, if this was meant as some sort of constructive criticism then maybe a private message would be better than a rather public comment. If the person posting this doesn't even realise what they are saying then they are just plain stupid for not doing their research properly, hello, follow the blog links and there might be some clues!

So let's examine the scenarios here:

1) You think I'm a guy in a dress - in that case I've put in a fair amount of effort, credit for that I think not some lame comment trying to make yourself seem clever

2) You know I'm something other than a guy in a dress - in that case you are either stupendously insensitive or a slightly more literate bigot, either way your comment was a complete waste of electrons

3) You think you know *exactly* what I am and actually assume that by posting something I may be impressed with your perception and want to have kinky sex with you - offensive, presumptuous and, showing you to have zero understanding. Also your chance of any relationship with me went from zero to 1/infinity.

4) You think I'm an Real Girl - so your method of dating real women is to tell them they look a bit like men? And you can't see the problem here? No? Oh well, maybe it's best that way, least it keeps you from procreating.

As many people's Grandparents are reputed to have said: "If you've nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all". Or another apt saying is "Better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt".